For a long time, I got feedback that I was “too aggressive” in how I communicated — too much, too fast, too bold. (How many women have gotten similar feedback?) At some point, I got overwhelmed by that feedback and I decided to stop talking so much. But once I started down that…
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When I first started having skip-level 1:1s with my manager’s manager, I always found them a little scary. What could I possibly tell them that would be…
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When I see a feature doing well, it’s tempting to feel an instinctive desire to copy and paste that feature onto whatever I’m working on. After all…
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When I first joined WhatsApp as head of product, I was terrified. I had a once-in-a-career opportunity — to work on a product I loved and learn from a…
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“You need to tell me something I’m doing well!” I said to my close colleague a few years ago. “I’ve only heard about what’s not working lately. I need…
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Last week, I wrote about ways I’ve learned to deal with hard feedback. But getting that feedback in the first place is just as important. The times most…
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Early in my career, my manager told me during a performance review that “being the smartest person in the room is pointless if no one wants to work with…
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Over my career, I’ve had to work hard on giving people tough feedback. This hasn’t been easy — as an extreme introvert, I’d rather not talk to anyone in…
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The Hard Parts of Growth