Early in my career, my manager told me during a performance review that “being the smartest person in the room is pointless if no one wants to work with you.” More recently, I got feedback from a colleague that “of course no one can help you if you don't ask for help.”
This came timely as I have a similar situation at work and lots of anxiety and fear to address it head-on. My coach told me that I could be jeopardizing my effectiveness with limiting beliefs, so I am going to take some actions and can't wait to read about your advice next week!
Feedback is a topic I have been delving for past few months, but this article hit me hard and deep. Thank you for sharing, it brings more layer to my perspectives!
These advices are very important, especially number 1. I'm a fairly straightforward person but at times find it challenging to hear frankness from others. I found the feedback very valuable though and keep thinking about them days and weeks after it was said :)
Beautifully written. Do you have an example of feedback you've heard that you haven't taken action on?
I hear the concept often that 'feedback is just a data point'. It's useful in that it's someone else's truth, but not necessarily the whole truth.
Still, I can't think of a time where I didn't act on someone's feedback. Do you explain to the person that you heard them but you disagree and/or don't care?
Yes! What has worked for me is to share more context about *why* I'm not taking their feedback.
For instance, if someone tells me I should speak up more in a certain meeting, I might share that I'm staying quiet because I'm trying to create space for a specific person on my team to use their voice -- and also enlist the person giving me feedback to help them as well.
Or if someone tells me I'm coming off as impatient, I might use that signal to consistently share more context with everyone about *why* I'm asking for so much urgency.
This came timely as I have a similar situation at work and lots of anxiety and fear to address it head-on. My coach told me that I could be jeopardizing my effectiveness with limiting beliefs, so I am going to take some actions and can't wait to read about your advice next week!
Feedback is a topic I have been delving for past few months, but this article hit me hard and deep. Thank you for sharing, it brings more layer to my perspectives!
These advices are very important, especially number 1. I'm a fairly straightforward person but at times find it challenging to hear frankness from others. I found the feedback very valuable though and keep thinking about them days and weeks after it was said :)
Beautifully written. Do you have an example of feedback you've heard that you haven't taken action on?
I hear the concept often that 'feedback is just a data point'. It's useful in that it's someone else's truth, but not necessarily the whole truth.
Still, I can't think of a time where I didn't act on someone's feedback. Do you explain to the person that you heard them but you disagree and/or don't care?
Yes! What has worked for me is to share more context about *why* I'm not taking their feedback.
For instance, if someone tells me I should speak up more in a certain meeting, I might share that I'm staying quiet because I'm trying to create space for a specific person on my team to use their voice -- and also enlist the person giving me feedback to help them as well.
Or if someone tells me I'm coming off as impatient, I might use that signal to consistently share more context with everyone about *why* I'm asking for so much urgency.
Great and very tactical advice 🙏🙏