Thanks Ami. So a while back I was given feedback that I sometimes interrupt people out of excitement. Something I struggled with both personal and work wise. I make progress and sometimes I relapse. Curious how have you kept yourself in check when in these situations. Ideas just wanna flow sometimes lol I find writing my thoughts down helps instead of just saying something that might discourage someone
I think being self-aware and open to feedback is an amazing first step! And it's normal to make progress and relapse - I always think progress is a sawtooth edge.
What's worked for me is to find a specific practice that helps me get my ideas across without interrupting - writing stuff down and giving a summary of my thoughts at the end of a topic, offering to take notes to make sure I'm focusing on other people's points rather than just insisting on my own, even raising my hand to register that I'd like to speak soon.
It's also been real work to figure out where I want to talk just because I want to talk versus where I have a thought that should change the outcome - and make sure I'm getting those latter thoughts across.
as a chronic, ADHD-laden interrupter (I prefer “supportive overtalker”, ahem), this strategy *always* lands with me, to the point that I have used it on myself when I notice I’m being more interrupty
Getting the “offenders” to play “defenders” is a brilliant strategy to promote this “self realization”. What better way to provide constructive feedback to folks who are not openly soliciting it.
This is truly genius. And compassionate. Thank you Ami - when are you joining X so we can share this?
Thank you! Feel free to share it with anyone who might be interested!
Thanks Ami. So a while back I was given feedback that I sometimes interrupt people out of excitement. Something I struggled with both personal and work wise. I make progress and sometimes I relapse. Curious how have you kept yourself in check when in these situations. Ideas just wanna flow sometimes lol I find writing my thoughts down helps instead of just saying something that might discourage someone
I think being self-aware and open to feedback is an amazing first step! And it's normal to make progress and relapse - I always think progress is a sawtooth edge.
What's worked for me is to find a specific practice that helps me get my ideas across without interrupting - writing stuff down and giving a summary of my thoughts at the end of a topic, offering to take notes to make sure I'm focusing on other people's points rather than just insisting on my own, even raising my hand to register that I'd like to speak soon.
It's also been real work to figure out where I want to talk just because I want to talk versus where I have a thought that should change the outcome - and make sure I'm getting those latter thoughts across.
You gotta do do what you gotta do to get the work done. Sometimes direct, sometimes subtle.
This is like making the mischievous kid class monitor :D
Brilliant. Thanks for sharing.
as a chronic, ADHD-laden interrupter (I prefer “supportive overtalker”, ahem), this strategy *always* lands with me, to the point that I have used it on myself when I notice I’m being more interrupty
"supportive overtalker" -- I love it!! Love that you use this tactic *on yourself* -- that is next level!!!
Love this insight, Ami.
Getting the “offenders” to play “defenders” is a brilliant strategy to promote this “self realization”. What better way to provide constructive feedback to folks who are not openly soliciting it.